Restored Hope

Purpose Statement

The purpose of Restored Hope is to provide ongoing support and aftercare to Douglas County community members who are mourning the loss of a loved one. This group of caring volunteers is committed to finding the right resources to help people who are facing a painful journey with grief.

Restored Hope offers resources for local workshops, support groups, grief companions, recommended bereavement books and websites, and Stephen Ministries.

Grief work is the toughest challenge people face and Restored Hope wants to help you find the right someone who will not only listen but understand your feelings at this critical time in your life.

History of Restored Hope
On July 2, 2003, Macy Adam Meyer made two tragic errors. He fell asleep at the wheel while driving to Iowa to visit his grandmother for the fourth of July and he wasn’t wearing his seatbelt. These two mistakes cost him his life at the tender age of 18.

Since this accident, the Meyer family has been promoting safe driving by sharing Adam’s story. They purchased a 47 passenger touring bus (The Macedog Express) which transports students and teachers to all kinds of athletic, academic, and youth events in the area and cross country.

In addition to providing a safe mode of transportation for teen drivers, the Meyer family also wanted to facilitate a bereavement after care resource. Thus, Restored Hope began in January 2005 when a group of dynamic volunteers gathered together to make a difference in their community. The goal of this “grass roots” group is to provide basic direction toward meaningful resources for those who have recently suffered a loss. All of the volunteers within Restored Hope have experienced a loss in their lives and have a passion toward directing other Douglas County residents who may face similar struggles.

Direction toward support groups, effective counseling and good written resources should be readily available when you have lost a loved one. Restored Hope has compiled a list of resources that have been used and recommended by others experiencing loss in our community.

compassionatefriends

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
P. O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
Toll-free: 877-969-0010
PH: 630-990-0010
www.compassionatefriends.org

heartlightcenter

The HeartLight Center has ongoing support groups, workshops, and training. Go to their website and click on the “programs” button for current updates. Grief Support and Education
We give solace to the grieving.
We educate about the grief process.
The main goal at HeartLight is to provide grief support and education for
individuals, families, and professional caregivers.
Located at 11150 E. Dartmouth Ave., Denver, CO 80014
Phone: 720-748-9908 fax: 303-369-1121
www.heartlightcenter.org

judishouse

When a loved one dies, anyone can become overwhelmed with grief. But for a child, whose entire world is made up of just a handful of people, the death of someone close can be devastating. Other family members are overcome with their own grief, and children often become forgotten mourners. At Judi’s House, children and teenagers (ages 3-18) have the opportunity to participate in peer support groups with children their own age who are going through similar things. They are free to grieve in their own way. Here, metro-Denver’s grieving children begin to heal.
Please explore our web site and find out more about Judi’s House, our groups, and children’s grief.
Phone: 720-941-0331 Fax: 720-941-0728
Address: 1741 Gaylord St. ~ Denver, CO 80206
www.judishouse.org

missfoundation

MISS FOUNDATION Support Groups
First Wednesday of each month 6:30 pm
Stonegate Community Center, 10300 Stonegate Parkway, Parker, CO
Contact: Corinne O’Flynn 720-488-5155 The MISS Foundation is a 501 (c) 3, volunteer based organization committed to providing crisis support and long term aid to families after the death of a child from any cause. MISS also participates in legislative and advocacy issues, community engagement and volunteerism, and culturally competent, multidisciplinary, education opportunities.
www.missfoundation.org

Resources

Loss Through Abortion

Books:
Experiencing Abortion: A Weaving of Women’s Words
by Eve Kushner Published by Harrington Park Press 1997
Kushner writes what women think and feel about their decision to have an abortion, and how women have made sense of their experiences. Rich in sorting out and describing the complexities of the abortion experience, Experiencing Abortion has excellent sections on using anger as an empowering force, and how to make peace with our bodies. Experiencing Abortion is thorough and well recommended.

Peace after Abortion by Ava Torre-Bueno Published by Pimpernel Press 1997
Peace after Abortion is broken down into the basic emotions surrounding abortion: guilt, grief, shame, depression, anger and spiritual injury. Peace after Abortion has a section on men’s experiences with abortion. Torre-Bueno also describes how some women get pregnant for unconscious reasons, and explores healing through atonement and ritual.

The Healing Choice: Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After an Abortion
by Candace De Puy and Dana Dovitch Published by Simon & Schuster 1997
The Healing Choice is broken up into three sections: the experience of being pregnant and having an abortion; the emotional aftermath; and the process of healing and acceptance. The Healing Choice has exercises to help you get in touch with your feelings as well as excerpts from interviews with women who share their own post-abortion stories.

Contacts:
ALTERNATIVES Pregnancy Center exists to care for Denver-area women in pregnancy related crisis and offer them a meaningful alternative to abortion.
Denver – 1440 Blake St., Suite 200, Denver, CO 80202 303-298-8815
Lakewood – 3110 S. Wadsworth Blvd., Suite 200, Lakewood, CO 80227 303-969-9369
Littleton – 2 W. Dry Creek Cir., Suite 180, Littleton, CO 80120 303-795-1331
Parker – 19029 E. Plaza Dr., Suite 255, Parker, CO 80134 720-851-2040

Support Groups:
Forgiven and Set Free
Contact: Susan Frase (303) 648-3831

Websites:
www.YouhaveALTERNATIVES.org
www.afterabortion.com
www.prochoiceconnection.com
www.hopeafterabortion.com

Loss of a Child

Books:
Gone But Not Lost by: David W. Wiersbe
Grieving the Death of a Child
When children die – even adult children – parents are left with a stomachache that never ends. David Wiersbe gives parents simple answers and honest hope. He cuts straight to thoughts and feelings parents face soon after the death of a child. Each brief chapter covers one element of grieving, while assuring the reader that sorrow is normal and right. This thoughtful book uses the Bible as a source of comfort, but the content is sensitive to the feelings of persons of other faiths.

A Grace Disguised by: Gerald L. Sittser
How the Soul Grows Through Loss
Sooner or later all people suffer loss, in little doses or big ones, suddenly or over time, privately or in public settings. Loss is as much a part of normal life as birth, for as surely as we are born into this world we suffer loss before we leave it. This book shows how it is possible to live in and be enlarged by loss, even as we continue to experience it. In an instant, a tragic accident claimed three generations of his family; his mother, his wife, and his younger daughter. This book is not about one man’s sorrow, rather it is a moving meditation on the losses we all suffer and the grace that can transform us.

Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart by: Alan D. Wolfelt, PH.D
100 Practical Ideas After a Child Dies
This book is filled with compassionate advice and simple activities that have helped thousands of grieving parents learn to live again. Common challenges for grieving parents, such as dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice and exploring feelings of guilt are all addressed. Whether your child was young or an adult, whether your loss was recent or many years ago, this easy-to-use resource will be a source of comfort and healing.

When the Bough Breaks by: Judith R. Bernstein, PH.D.
Forever after the Death of a Son or Daughter
This poignant and sensitive book offers bereaved parents the comfort of learning how others have navigated this rutted road. It assesses the enduring consequences of loss and sheds light on the evolution in values, perceptions, and relationships that follow the death of a child. With great honesty and empathy, it acknowledges that no family ever “recovers” from this tragedy, but rather adapts to a life irretrievable altered.

Support Groups:
MISS Foundation
Stonegate Community Center
10300 Stonegate Parkway
Parker, CO 80134
Meetings: First Wednesday of every month 6:30 pm
(303) 788-5677 or email Corinne@missfoundation.org

Heartlight Center
11150 E. Dartmouth Ave.
Denver, CO 80014
720-748-9908
www.heartlightcenter.org

Websites:
www.compassionatefriends.org
www.heartlightcenter.org
www.missfoundation.org
www.griefshare.org

Loss of a Domestic Partner

Books:
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies, Rando, Therese A.
NY: Bantam Books, 1988

It Hurts to Lose a Special Person, Mumford, Amy Ross. Accent Publications 1982

A Journey Through Grief, Bozart, Alla Renee. Hazelden, 1990

Support Groups:
Hospice of Metro Denver:
Younger Bereaved Spouses and Partners Support Group – Meets the 1st and 3rd
Wednesday of every month from 6:00 to 7:00 pm at 501 Cherry Street, Suite 700,
Denver, CO 80246 phone: 303-321-2828
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays – Held 2nd Monday of every other month at
Denver Health Medical Center from 7:30-9:00 pm on the 2nd floor.
303-333-0286 or 303-573-5861

Websites:

www.PFLAG.COM
www.hospiceofmetrodenver.com

Loss of a Grandparent

Books:

Grandma’s Purple Flowers by Adjoa J. Burrowes

Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs by Tomie DePaola

Grandpa Loved by Josephine Nobisso

Grandma’s Scrapbook by Maxine Harris

I Miss You: A First Look At Death by Pat Thomas

Finding Grandpa Everywhere by John Hodge

Support Groups:

Loss and Grief Support Group is offered on Tuesday’s from 7:00 – 8:00 pm
Littleton United Methodist Church, 1313 West Shepperd, Room M-13.
Call Lee Root, 303-791-6287

The Lighthouse Program is part of the Children’s Grief Education Asociation (CGEA) 1379 S. High Street, Denver, CO 80210, 303-722-2319 or www.childgrief.org

Websites:

www.med.umich.edu/1libr/pa/pa_bldthgra_pep.htm
Death of a Grandparent – Resource list of books for ages 3-12

www.pampers.com
When Grandparents die; Helping your child to cope

www.hospicenet.org/htm/talking.html
Talking to children about death

Loss of a Parent

Books:

When Parents Die – a Guide for Adults by: Edward Myers

The Orphaned Adult by: Alexander Levy

Confessions of a Grieving Christian by: Zig Ziglar

Never the Same – Coming to terms with the Death of a Parent by: Donna Schurman

Contacts:

Jennifer McBride – MA director of bereavement, Heartlight Center, 303-745-1771 ext.242

National Association for Widowed People
P. O. Box 3564
Springfield, IL 62708

Support Groups:
Going Through Grief Group – first and third Wed. from 12 – 1pm.
Cost: free Location: 425 S. Cherry St.

Going Through Grief Group: Sept. 16 – Nov. 4 Monday 6 8:00 pm
and Sept. 12 – Nov. 7 Thursday 6 -8:00 pm
Cost: $100 Location: 425 S. Cherry St.

Grieving our Parents: Third Monday 6:00 to 7:30 pm
Cost: $100 Location: 425 S. Cherry St.

Websites:

www.heartlight.org (support groups, workshops, memorials)

www.senioranswers.org (list of support groups)

www.Americanhospice.org (202-223-0204 – courses and workshops)

www.Hospicefoundation.org

Loss through Stillbirth

Books:

We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But we had an Angel Instead, by: Pat Schwiebert

An Empty Cradle, A Full Heart: Reflections for Mothers and Fathers after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death, by: Christine O’Keeffe Lafser

Threads of Hope, Pieces of Joy, by: Teale Fackler and Gwen Kik

I’ll Hold You in Heaven: Remembrance Book, by: Debbie Heydrick

Support Groups:
The M.I.S.S. Foundation – Meetings at Stonegate Community Center
1st Wednesday of every month at 6:30 pm – Lead by Corinne O’Flynn
303-378-4300 or email corinne@missfoundation.org

Assistance with Grief – Support groups offering seven consecutive weekly sessions for parents grieving a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Registration required.
Held at Swedish Hospital, 501 East Hampdon Avenue, Englewood, CO 80110.
Call 303-788-5677 to register. (Leave a voice mail message and a counselor will call you back)

Fetal and Newborn Loss Program – Independent individuals offer support groups for grieving parents following a miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Call 303-344-7597, leave a message and someone will call you back with current support group information.

Solace Women’s and Family Services (Exempla, Lutheran Medical Center). Five week support groups for parents grieving after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. 8300 West 38th Ave., Wheatridge, CO 80033. Call 303-425-2229 to pre register.

Websites:

www.themissfoundation.org

www.centering.org (Best collection of infant loss books)

www.heartlightcenter.org

Loss through Suicide

Books:
Grieving a Suicide
by Albert Y. Hsu Published by InterVarsity Press 2002
After his father’s death, Hsu wrestled with the intense emotional and theological questions surround suicide. While acknowledging that there are no easy answers, he draws on the resources of the Christian faith to point suicide survivors to the God who offers comfort in our grief and hope for the future. For those who have lost a loved one to suicide and for their pastors and counselors, this book is an essential companion for the journey toward healing.

Contacts:
Suicide Prevention and Support
Arapahoe/Douglas Mental Health Network 303-795-6187
Comitis 303-343-9890
Suicide Prevention Hotline 303-860-1200
Youth Support Hotline 303-894-9000

Support Groups:
DENVER
Group Name & Mailing Address:
Heartbeat, 2956 South Wolff, Denver, CO 80236
Contact: Katie Ford 303-755-2679
Meeting Place/ Day/ Time:
Lutheran Hospital on 1st Tuesday 7PM/ Mission Hills Church on 2nd Thursday

Group Name & Mailing Address:
Parents of Suicides, 212 South Dexter St., Denver, CO 80246
Contact: Vivian Epstein (303) 322-7450
Meeting Place: Non-sectarian, Bethany Lutheran Church, 4500 East Hampden Ave.
Meeting Day(s)/Meeting Time: 3rd Tuesday each month 7 – 9PM

COLORADO SPRINGS
Group Name & Mailing Address:
Heartbeat/Survivors After Suicide, 2015 Devon St., Colorado Springs, CO 80909
Contacts:
LaRita Archibald (719) 596-2575 archlj@msn.com
Mary King 719-593-8680 maryking@earthlink.net
For teens: LaRita Archibald or Rev. Leanne Hadley, 719-520-9024
Meeting Place: Pikes Peak Partners Bldg., 12 North Meade St., Colorado Springs
Meeting Day(s)/Meeting Time: 1st Tuesday each month at 7PM

Websites:

www.survivorsofsuicide.com
www.suicidehotlines.com

Loss of a Veteran

Books:

Contacts:

Douglas County Department of Human Services
Henry F. Bohne – Veterans Service Officer
Office Hours – Wednesdays 9:00 to noon
101 Third Street, Castle Rock, CO 80104

Casualty Affairs
460th MSS/SPMPS, 18401 East A-Basin (stop 97), Buckley AFB, CO 80011

Support Groups:

The Department of Veteran Affairs (VA) offers bereavement support to parents,
Spouses, and children of Armed Forces personnel who died in the service of
their country. Also eligible are family members of reservists and National
Guardsmen who died while on duty.

There is no cost for VA bereavement counseling

VA’s bereavement counseling is provided at community based Vet Centers
located near the families.

Services are obtained by contacting Readjustment Counseling Services at
202-273-9116 or via electronic mail at vetcenter@hq.med.va.gov both of
which are specific to these specialized services. RCS staff will assist
families in contacting the nearest vet center.

Websites:
www.accesshelp.org
www.va.gov

Children Facing Loss

Books:

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia

The Next Place by: Warren Hanson

Tear Soup by: Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen

Waiting to Sing by Howard Kaplan

My Mama Had A Dancing Heart by Libba Moore Gray

Daddy, Up and Down: Sisters Grieve the Loss of Their Daddy by Lila Stenson

Grandma’s Purple Flowers by Adjoa J. Burrowes

Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs by Tomie DePaola

Grandpa Loved by Josephine Nobisso

The Loss That is Forever by Maxine Harris

I Miss You: A First Look At Death by Pat Thomas

Books for Parents Helping Children in Grief:
Children and Grief by J. William Worden

When Children Grieve by John W. James, Russell Friedman

Helping Children Cope with the Death of a Parent
by Paddy Greenwall Lewis, Jessica G. Lippman

Helping Children Cope With the Loss of a Loved One
by William C. Kroen, Pamela Espeland

How Do We Tell the Children? by Dan Schaefer

Healing Children’s Grief by Grace Christ

Contacts:
The Dougy Center
P. O. Box 86852
Portland, OR 97286
(503) 775-5683

Support Groups:
Judi’s House
1741 Gaylord Street
Denver, CO 80206
Phone: 720-941-0331
Fax: 720-941-0728

Websites:

www.compassionatefriends.org

www.judishouse.org

www.griefhealing.com

www.griefnet.org

www.dougy.org

www.hugstraining.com

www.childrensgrief.net

www.connectforkids.org

www.Misterrogers.org

Teens Facing Loss

Books:

Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul by: Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

I Will Remember You by: Laura Dower

Healing your Grieving Heart for Teens by: Dr. Alan Wolfelt

Good Grief by: Granger E. Westberg

The Grieving Teen by: Helen Fitzgerald

The Grieving Child, A Parent’s Guide by: Helen Fitzgerald

Support Groups:
Judi’s House
1741 Gaylord Street
Denver, CO 80206
Phone: 720-941-0331
Fax: 720-941-0728
http://www.judishouse.org/teen.html
http://www.rainbows.org

MISSION:
To provide curricula and training for establishing peer support groups for children, adolescents and adults who are grieving due to death, divorce or painful transition in their family.
OBJECTIVES:
· to furnish participants with an understanding of the grief experience
· to provide an opportunity for emotional healing
· to assist in building a stronger sense of self-esteem
· to teach appropriate coping mechanisms

Websites:

www.compassionatefriends.org

www.griefhealing.com

www.griefnet.org

www.americanhospice.org

www.hospicenet.org

www.allkidsgrieve.org

www.compassionbooks.com

Adults Facing Loss

Books:

When Life is Changed Forever by: Rick Taylor
This book empathetically comforts the agony of empty arms and the raging of the soul in the aftermath of a loved one’s death. Within these helpful pages the author skillfully offers the sure hope that life can be lived fully again while facing the truth that it can never be the same.

When You Lose Someone You Love by: Richard Exley
When you’re facing the loss of your loved one, nothing is more welcome than personal comfort and companionship. Here is a “companion” who can be with you wherever and whenever you need an understanding ear. Writing in an intimate and compassionate “personal letter” approach, author Richard Exley helps you make sense of the sometimes difficult emotions of grief and begin to see what lies beyond them.

Understanding Your Grief by: Alan D. Wolfelt, PH.D.
Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart
When someone you love dies, it can be hard to understand your often complex, and painful thoughts and feelings. This compassionate guide helps you understand the normal and necessary journey we call grief. The book focuses on ten essential touchstones that are physical, emotional, cognitive, social, and spiritual actions necessary for you to take to help yourself heal.

Support Groups:
See attached Colorado Resources
See website for The Heartlight Center below

Websites:
www.compassionatefriends.org website for those dealing with the loss of a child

www.judishouse.org website that offers support to children (ages 3 to 18) who have suffered a loss. Judi’s House is located at 1741 Gaylord Street, Denver, CO 80206, telephone 720-941-0331.

www.griefhealing.com created by Marty Tousely, APRN, BC, CT on staff as a bereavement counselor with the Hospice of the Valley in Phoenix, Arizona.
Excellent website that offers a full list of resources including on-line healing courses.

www.griefnet.org offers an internet community which includes email support groups, resource library, can also place a memorial of your loved one, however it is listed by year/quarter which may be confusing to those that are trying to locate specific name. Based out of Michigan.

www.heartlightcenter.org offers area support groups, grief workshops, and educational seminars. Updated regularly.

www.webhealing.com offers articles, resources on crisis, grief and healing – written by Tom Golden, LCWS of Washington, D.C.